"i am mine.
before i am ever anyone else’s."
in, nayyirah waheed (via nayyirahwaheed)
Learning to love the unknown.
i fucking want to cut a bitch to defend regina’s honor
Wow ok how about not? First of all Hook did not save Charming’s life to get a sexual favor from Emma. By saying that you are suggesting that Emma is some kind of reward for good behavior that gets passed around, I happen to think of Emma as a grown ass woman who can kiss a sexy pirate cuz she’s “feeling good” if she wants! Second, Hook did not tell the group what happened, he was ready to lie and his heroic act go unnoticed but CHARMING told them. So with that part done, on to your next “point”. Hook did nothing to save Henry. Hook did nothing to save Henry? HOOK DID NOTHING TO SAVE HENRY?! Hook had no reason to be there but to be saving Henry! Now before you start with your whole “he was trying to seduce Emma!” Bullshit, he DID NOT bring up his feelings for her until he had to so they could save Neal, and Hook even told Emma he would wait until they had saved Henry before he tried winning her heart. Now for how he was an active participant in Operation Save Henry, how did the gang get to Neverland? His boat. How did the gang navigate Neverland? His expertise. Who suggested finding Tinkerbell for a way off the island? Hook. Who helped fight lost boys? Hook. Who was by Emma’s side never questioning her leadership and doing everything in his goddamn power to get her son back? Hook. I’m not bashing Regina, but while Hook has made mistakes he has had great character development on his road to redemption, Regina has inflicted a lot of hurts and is still struggling to get better. I can acknowledge the bad Hook has done, but there is a reason his character is seen as good now. He has worked to earn that.
BOTH Hook and Regina played crucial roles in rescuing Henry. Simple as that.
friendly reminder that trans people who choose not to update their gender on facebook to include their trans identity are still trans.
friendly reminder that trans people are not “lying” or “deceiving” anyone by selecting “female” or “male” without any qualifiers.
friendly reminder that trans people do not owe anyone a public declaration of their gender or trans-ness.
friendly reminder that trans people’s safety and wellbeing is always the first priority.
"Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s appearance matter a lot. Not all men buy into this, of course, but many do. Some seem incapable of entertaining the notion that not everything women do with their appearance is for men to look at. This is why men’s response to women discussing stifling beauty norms is so often something like “But I actually like small boobs!” and “But I actually like my women on the heavier side, if you know what I mean!” They don’t realize that their individual opinion on women’s appearance doesn’t matter in this context, and that while it might be reassuring for some women to know that there are indeed men who find them fuckable, that’s not the point of the discussion.
Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/push up/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.
That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?
The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure."
this is literally so insanely fucking important fucking hell fuckity fuckkkkkk(via pixiepienix)
Want to go to Planned Parenthood in D.C.? You’ll have to run the anti-choice gauntlet first.
This is what it looks like when clinics don’t have buffer zones.They’re sidewalk harassers, sidewalk bullies, whatever else, but they are no where near counsellors. Counsellors are non-judgmental, non-biased, empathetic listeners, that is NOT what those people are. - Paige
If the clinic employees begin exercising their 2nd Amendment right to bear arms and carried AR-15’s or AK-47’s along with them, on public streets, that would present an interesting conundrum to the gun loving right wing, would it not? I bet it would stop all the harassment cold too.
There are some abortion providers that do carry guns at all times, wear bulletproof vests to work, hire bodyguards, wear masks into the clinic so protestors can’t identify them, go in the back door, change up their driving routes every day, check under their cars daily for bombs, etc. That’s how serious this is, and that’s why it’s dangerous to take the protestors at face value, even if they seem peaceful. You don’t know who they’re hiding in the crowd.
And doctors who work at abortion clinics have been murdered by pro-life activists, in what has to be one of the biggest ironies in existence. Clinics have also been bombed.
Do the people in the picture look like harassers or bullies at all? Do you see any of them in possession of a gun, waving their arms in the air, or shouting? How are they threatening? In any case, people who are violent when doing something like this are not sidewalk counsellors or pro-life activists. People with unacceptable behavior like have been disowned by the pro-life movement itself. Sidewalk counsellors are supposed to offer real help, not intimidation.
Yeah, how could walking through a group of people who despise you and/or what you’re about to do with every fiber of their being, who belong to a movement with a history of violence in a country where their beliefs are being implicitly codified into law, be at all intimidating?
"People with unacceptable behavior like [this] have been disowned by the pro-life movement itself." No, they really haven’t, and the fact that you both think that’s true and refuse to see how this crowd is threatening shows how far deep your head is buried in the sand.
Yeah fuck that person who thinks this isn’t intimidating for patients.
I do clinic escorting at a local clinic every weekend. We have a fence and the antis aren’t allowed on our property, luckily, but let me just tell you about my experience just today.
- I had a woman ask me for my name multiple times. She knew I worked for the clinic because I wear an apron that says “clinic escort” on it. She kept telling me I didn’t “have” to work for an abortion clinic. This is part of a concerted effort on the part of anti-choicers to harass clinic workers into quitting their jobs. It’s actually called "And then there were none" and it’s pretty fucking disgusting.
- When I walked up to a patient as she was getting out of her car (this is policy, we have to ask if the person has an appointment because the antis try to park on our property all the time), she got really scared at first because she thought I was one of the antis. She told me how relieved she was once she read my apron. This woman had an existing child that she mentioned to me as the antis were screaming over the fence about her “killing her baby”.
- Another woman told me how she was worried I might be “with them” when I walked up, just because the knowledge of how anti-choicers harass people going into the clinic is so commonplace. She was also relieved to have me there. One of the anti-choicers yelled at her about killing her baby from over the fence. She burst into tears.
- These people also yell at and harass the men that come into the clinics with either their partners or their family members. One woman kept yelling out to the men coming in to “protect [his] legacy”.
This was all in one day. One day. I’ve had other experiences on other days when I’ve escorted that are just as bad or worse.
It’s not like these people stand there silently. They are actively yelling at folks and when they can, pursuing them. If an anti-choicer at my place of work can’t get to someone through the part of the fence that overlooks the parking lot, they will push their pamphlets through the parts of the fence that face the doors of the clinic. They are aggressive and totally insensitive to the feelings of any of the patients coming into the clinic.
I haven’t worked at this clinic long, but I have seen the emotional effects that these people have on patients coming into the clinic. So like yeah, in one picture it doesn’t appear that they’re harassing anyone, yelling, or threatening people. But that doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. And either way, who wants people staring at them when they’re going in for a medical procedure? Or when you come out of one, and you’re still so groggy from anesthesia that you need one of the clinic nurses (or even myself or someone else in my kind of position!) to hold you up and put you in the car?
Anyone who thinks the people standing outside of clinics are not doing it with the intent to harass and bully is wrong, and patients deserve to be protected from this kind of bullshit. My clinic has a big fence and the patients that we serve still feel harassed and bullied. I can’t imagine what it must be like for people going into a clinic without that, like what is pictured.
Hatred can be just as violent as someone’s fists.